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19 Jul 2025 08:19 AM
19 Jul 2025 08:19 AM
@PeppyPatti hey PP 🙂 interesting you say about your son with the high iq and sleeping all day and plays computer all night. my daughter with high functioning autism and chronic depression was tested and got bored of the test and quit but still got a total of 145. she cant work and plays her computer all day.
19 Jul 2025 07:00 PM
19 Jul 2025 07:00 PM
Wow. I'm reading along with great awe @PeppyPatti . You have such an incredible life, and what you are doing now is so amazing, even if you have 'zero'.
If you write a novel, i'll definitely read it!
Thank you so much for trusting the community in sharing parts of your life with us. It seems I'm getting to know you more and more these last few days 🙂
Keep being amazing and give Peanut a hug for me!
19 Jul 2025 07:42 PM
19 Jul 2025 07:42 PM
Thank you for sharing your beautiful insights and some slices of life @PeppyPatti - reminds me that we are, all of us, unique constellations of experience.
"Their journey is theirs" - love this attitude, trying to embody it myself.
I hope you do get to write your novel! That's a wonderful goal, I got the same thought floating about up in here hehe 💜
19 Jul 2025 07:46 PM
19 Jul 2025 07:46 PM
Hey @Jynx the skills needed in both acting and the service industry are the most powerful and rare : creativity and good communication .
I couldn't be a waiter as Im too shy
Keep being u and loving who you are.
19 Jul 2025 09:09 PM
19 Jul 2025 09:09 PM
@EternalFlower worked as a waiter for many years - honestly, I think the skills translated REALLY well to this work. Mainly, finding ways - curious ways, funny ways, silly ways, solidarity ways, creativity ways, any ways, all ways - to connect to people from all walks of life 🥰
We all have our strengths - you have a way with words I adore for example.
You too hun, always. TY for the warm fuzzies 💜
19 Jul 2025 09:17 PM
19 Jul 2025 09:17 PM
@PeppyPatti @Jynx @tyme @Bunniekins @Glisten et al,
I am feeling very low today. My ex friend has enlisted her ex husbands' questionable girlfriend (we'll call her S) to sign me up to some adult dating sites and I am getting emails from women from other countries. I can't deactivate the account because S set it up and I don't know the password. On the "about me" section she wrote (about me) "I am a phat f*ck who can't move on from losing my ex best friend and have nothing going on in my life" and registered my name as Psychotic Stalker. I know I shouldn't be upset but I am. I know I am overweight but I don't need this woman posting stuff like that on a dating site. Especially since I have been a victim of stalking. While I have no issue with same sex relationships I am hetero so getting suggestive emails from women doesn't turn me on. I have prayed about what I should do but haven't got an answer. I am so hurt that she would do this to me, considering I gave 8 years of my life - financially and emotionally- to ex friend. My brother tried to cheer me up by saying I should be flattered as I am living rent free in their minds but it's just so hurtful.
Anyway, I hope everyone else is having a nice night. Tymey, I am finally going to Funnings tomorrow, I squirreled away some of my money to get your namesake so watch this space 🫂
19 Jul 2025 09:24 PM
19 Jul 2025 09:24 PM
@ENKELI that sounds so petty
Had someone many years ago do something horrible online, logging on as me to my own Facebook account and posting that I wanted people to stop commenting on my weight gain because its embarrassing
Some stalker trying to embarrass me
I hope u feel better and have space from these damaging and toxic individuals who honestly don't deserve your trust or goodness
19 Jul 2025 09:29 PM
19 Jul 2025 09:29 PM
@ENKELI my dear I am so sorry you are copping this.
Can I just gently point out that this kind of thing is, in legal terms, known as defamation? Slander is actually a horrible, toxic kind of behaviour. So when you say this:
@ENKELI wrote:
I know I shouldn't be upset but I am.
I just think... hun, you have EVERY RIGHT to be upset!! This is your social standing coming under attack - something inherently linked to our survival instincts. Our reputations do actually matter!! I'm not joking when I say you could have a right to legal recourse over something like this. Legal Aid's page on defamation - just in case 💜
19 Jul 2025 10:07 PM - edited 19 Jul 2025 10:35 PM
19 Jul 2025 10:07 PM - edited 19 Jul 2025 10:35 PM
@ENKELI my Retiisi. Oh sweetheart 💟 What you’re describing isn’t drama. It’s digital abuse, identity sabotage, and emotional cruelty, plain and simple.
That woman — S, short for Septic excuse for a human — has clearly mistaken petty spite for power.
She’s clinging to the idea of you because she can’t cope with your absence. You’re not rent-free in her head — you’re the entire penthouse, and she’s stuck living in emotional public housing with no heating, no logic, and no class.
The account, the insults, the stalking — none of it reflects you. It reflects her inability to grow, her festering insecurity, and her fear that she’ll never measure up to the person she tried to destroy.
I won’t lie, my first reaction was:
“Dispatch Mr Murdermittens with orders to claw the truth into her furniture, and send Dougie — the world’s kindest retired racehorse — galloping into Midvegas Post Office with a saddlebag full of sugar-free muffins and a restraining order.”
But I know you’re seeking peace, not chaos. So here’s the grounded bit:
You have every right to be hurt. This is cruel. It isn’t okay. But you also have every right to fight back — smart, calm, and with all the weight of truth. When you’re ready, I’ll help you craft a response for the platforms, or even take legal steps.
You survived worse. You are not alone. And even through heartbreak, you are magic. ✨
✨Muffins, plants, and my unyielding friendship. Always.
– Your Tomaatti who sees you clearly.
19 Jul 2025 10:12 PM
19 Jul 2025 10:12 PM
My darling @Jynx thank you for your words.
I have spoken to a friend of mine who is in the police force and she said much the same thing. I have emailed S and requested that she deactivate the profile or that I willconsider legal action. I don't want to go the legal route but if I have to I will.
I'm just feeling particularly vulnerable at the moment, my dad is ignoring me and my MH isn't great right now so it was something I didn't need.
I am just so thankful that I have you and my Sane family to talk to. 🫂 ❤️
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