@NikNik wrote:
Hi @Scared
As I said, I'm sorry to read things are at boiling point with your mum at the moment.
Maybe if none of your strategies are working, other members could share their strategies to be present and breathe? Ideas team?
Um...I've just jumped in here so I don't know what you've tried @Former-Member or what things tend to work for you. When I am completely flooded I lie on the floor or in my bed and I don't let myself get up again until the big feelings have passed. I let myself think about anything I want to - how hopeless my life is, how much I want to die, how utterly alone I am, and I let the enormous waves of grief and despair wash over me...and I wait. And thus far, in the approximately 7300 days that I've been struggling with my muddle, I've always found that at some point the big feelings get a bit less and then I am able to get up and keep on keeping on. While the waves are crashing it doesn't FEEL like I can ever get up again, and that's ok, because the trick is to know that it's totally ok for the waves to be huge and it's ok to not be able to fight them. At that point, you simply stay still and the waves will wash over you and it will hurt like hell, but it WILL stop. It will almost certainly start again, possibly annoyingly soon, but there will always be periods of calm in between the waves. At least, that's been my experience over these 7300 days.
