Riding a wave

[Phoenix_Rising]

Psssst @Faith-and-Hope,

I feel super icky. Everything feels wrong without one of the regular moderators at FF. How can I be this superly duperly sensitive to change/abandonment? I think it is more an abandonment-driven big feeling rather than a change-driven big feeling. It has felt wrong all day - even though I knew they were going to be away. And now this big feeling is triggering the giant missing CherryBomb feelings. I am half a millimetre away from tears. I superly duperly miss...everybody.

[Faith-and-Hope]

I know @Phoenix_Rising .... it does feel like they are missing .... but @NiteKat was here earlier, so they haven't been away all day .... just probably low-staffed tonight.

Sorry you're feeling teary, but I am here with you, and I will stay.

I miss CherryBomb too .... she's a great person ... but it helps me to think of her sharing her beautiful strengths with others who need her now too.  I am sure we're not far from her thoughts though ... who wouldn't miss us ??  We are great company, and we care so much .... about everything ....

Hugs little turtle .... here with you .... 💕🐢

[Shaz51]

I know @Phoenix_Rising .... I miss CherryBomb too .... she's a great person 

Hello @marchhare @NiteKat  are her tonight my friend xxx

I am here with you my awesome friend xoxo

[Phoenix_Rising]

@Faith-and-Hope Please don't hug me!!! I'm super glad you are here though...it's just that by "here" I mean over there, on the other side of the cave.

I don't understand any of this: it helps me to think of her sharing her beautiful strengths with others who need her now too.  I am sure we're not far from her thoughts though. I just stare blankly at comments like that. I super don't understand. It's ok, I don't need to understand right now. I just need to snuggle in my cave.

The abandonment stuff really is enormous @Faith-and-Hope. It must simmer right below the surface and absolutely anything will trigger it. Right now it truly feels like @Former-Member @Former-Member and everyone have gone forever and will never come back. I know this isn't the case, but I have the physiological effects of massive overwhelming grief. I am just sitting with it. I know it isn't stupid or weird or wrong, it just...is. I know it will pass. I know it is atypical, but that that doesn't make it bad or anything.

By the way, I love that you are following the DBT adventure. I have written my next post, but I need to check if a link I've included is ok to post. Hey @marchhare, I sent an email a few hours ago. Are you able to take a look at that? I super want to post my post. I'm 99% sure the link is fine to share, I just thought I should check.

Ok, my brain really is flooding now so I'm going to snuggle into my shell. You will stay in my cave tonight @Faith-and-Hope?

[Shaz51]

they are here @Phoenix_Rising and I am her with you too my awesome friend , i am soo proud of you   @Phoenix_Rising, imagine me doin Friday feast by myself , I am soooo glad I have you by my side xoxo

[Faith-and-Hope]

Oops .... sorry .... forgot myself for a moment @Phoenix_Rising .... reversing that hug right now and sending it back to me .....

Sure will stay in the cave with you .... 🌷🐢

[CheerBear]

Hi @Phoenix_Rising. I'm not quite home yet but not far away and have 10 minutes until a train comes to take us home. I logged on to see what everyone what was up to at FF and say hi, and I saw that you were snuggling here for now. I hope it feels better here in the cave for you. I might crash big time when I get home (so tired), so I'll say good night now while I'm here.

Snuggly cosily 🙂

[Phoenix_Rising]

@CheerBear I can't wait to hear about your adventure - if it is shareable. I hope you and the LF had a super wonderful day and made super wonderful memories of Friday 29th September, 2017. 😊

[CheerBear]

It really was super wonderful thanks @Phoenix_Rising 😊 It's not really shareable but that's ok because you were there the whole time anyway.

Totally random, no need to answer anytime soon (or anytime at all), probably doesn't matter in the big scheme of things question, but in the interests of keeping the DBT adventure in some kind of structured order, I'm wondering whether it is worth recapping the 4 modules (and the orientation module) before we get to the skills themselves? That way all of the info part doesn't get lost in the bazillion skills parts. We can split the recapping if you'd like, or we can just add to each other's. Just a thought and feel free to 'yeah but no' it ☺

Hope today is better for you and looking forward to reading the next chapter of the adventure when it comes up 😊

[Phoenix_Rising]

Hi @CheerBear,

Yes yesterday's adventure was superly duperly wonderful and I am glad that I could be there with you and the LF, making awesome memories.

I have just posted on the DBT thread. My aim is to post an overview of pages 5-12 by the end of Monday. As you suggest, it would make sense to do an overview of the 4 modules and the orientation module then, wouldn't it. Would you like to do that bit?

Have you had any further thoughts about following a schedule vs any other plan? I like the schedule set out on pages 110-111. I don't know about you, but I know there is no way in hell I can cover all the suggested material for each week, so me-thinks the 24 week schedule would extend out to at least 48 weeks. I'm totally ok with that. Just think, in a year or so we could have the entire DBT skills program sitting there in Forum Land for anyone to work through! What do you think?

I am keeping track of where we are at on each page, and every now and again I plan to edit the first post of the thread to create a table of contents. I figure that way we can drift and bounce and have random conversations, and yet still at the end, have a thread that people can navigate around to find specific modules/skills.

I am super excited about this project CheerBear. We are changing the world...together but not.