Riding a wave

[CheerBear]

Hi @Phoenix_Rising ☺ I'm not really here at the moment either (just dropping off a post/essay) but while I was not-here I wanted to say hi and that I hope your Monday eve has been ok.

I will be here at the DBT desk (if all goes according to plan) tonight. Until then, I am also here but not.

☺

[Phoenix_Rising]

Good evening ocean dwellers,

It is bedtime for little turtles. I survived the weekend - well done me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I didn't achieve very much, but I survived so that's ok.

@CheerBear I am super excited about the DBT adventure. I just hope my brain starts working soon so that I can get to work on my bit for next week! I was super glad to see your response to others on the thread - I just haven't been in the headspace to respond. Yay for doing this together but not!

Good night Forum Land. @Former-Member I super love the fact that you are in the underwater cave now.

Oh that reminds me @Zoe7, I am super busting ready to learn to make pictures. Just let me know when you are feeling up to giving a little turtle a lesson.

Night all.

[Former-Member]

You didn’t achieve very much? You achieved SURVIVAL and that is super hard work and super, SUPER important. (And I'm very glad you did.) 

I feel very honoured to be in the underwater cave, @Phoenix_Rising. (Thanks again, @Zoe7.) I finished my ocean reading today and I have so many big feelings and thoughts that I can’t articulate tonight, but just know that I am thinking and feeling them. 🌷

I hope you sleep well, little turtle. Good night. 🐢

[CheerBear]

Well done on surviving the weekend @Phoenix_Rising 🙂 ! It's nearly Monday now.

I'm super excited too. I'm also scared. First days are hard for almost everything and that's ok. I have a turtle on my desk that has said lots of things that have helped my confidence along the way, and I am remembering them tonight. We're together but not and it's ok to muddle through it 🙂

Hope you sleep well and catch you tomorrow!

🙂

[Zoe7]

If I make it through tonight @Phoenix_Rising then I'll start a new thread to 'make pictures' with you.

Goodnight little turtle.

[CheerBear]

Good morning @Phoenix_Rising (happy Monday/yoga day), Zoe7 and all. Zoe I read you had a hard night so I'm not tagging you as I think/hope you'll see this anyway when you're up to it. Thinking of you this morning.

I was just brave and posted the post on the DBT adventure. It was really tricky and I'm wondering if maybe part of that is that step 1 doesn't actually have a huge amount of information to share in terms of skills, and that some of step 1 isn't really relevant here. Part of it is definitely also that I have a melted snowflakey banana head, questioning myself, can't make a decision, worried about the world ending kind of thing, sometimes 😉

It feels really good to have clicked post though. I'm reeeeeeally hoping there are others that come past too so we can have more of a group which will give us more of a chance to learn from each other. If there are any regular forumites reading this who want to jump in over there (even if it's only for this week/s to show that it's ok to join along) that would be great! But really if no-one else does join in, I'm ok with that too.

I hope the kick off post is ok with you both/all. It's a start if nothing else 🙂

I have to run to get a 2712 (I think, who even knows 😉 ) from my GP now. There's an enormous bus with a huge housing sign driving around my world at the moment and depending on if (when) that hits, yoga class may/may not happen also. I'm tipping it won't happen but that just means I'll be spending some time yoga-ing at home later.

We're doing it (I think) :S 😉 !

Hope this morning is ok for all 🙂

[Phoenix_Rising]

Good morning @CheerBear and everyone else but really I'm talking to CheerBear...er...is that disrespectful and offensive??? 

I SUPER like your DBT post, CheerBear. I can hear how anxious you are feeling. I can't be 100% certain, but I am FAIRLY certain that the continued rotation of the earth on its axis isn't contingent on how our DBT adventure goes. If we completely fluff it up and it ends up being the most disasterous thread that has ever existed in the history of Forum Land, we can simply ask for it to be removed...and we will then be famous for having created the most disasterous thread that has ever existed in the history of Forum Land. 

I super like how you have provided links to other relevant parts. I think this is one way in which we will actually move quicker than a "real" group because we don't actually have to re-hash stuff, we can just say "go here." I also super liked the way you set out the heading. That makes it super clear for the table of contents. I'm planning to edit the first page to include the TOC this week as this seems a good time to do that. Third, I super like the questions you posed, and also how you acknowledged how scary it might be for people to join in. 

My only thought about something we might do differently as we go along, is whether we need to keep including information about where to find the handouts online. Hmmm....maybe I could add that to the first page and then we can do the "refer here" thing.

It sounds a little like you are super anxious about whether people will join in or not. I can't say that this bothers me at all - I guess I'm just very used to playing alone.  I am concerned though that people may feel too scared to join in (as opposed to just not wanting to). Maybe when I write my response to your post (i.e. when I've actually done this first step of the doing bit ) I will invite some people to share their thoughts if they want to. 

I think perhaps part of the reason I don't feel bothered by how many people do or don't engage on a thread in Forum Land is because I know from my experiences on the uni forum that for every person who posts, there are about a bazillion people lurking. We will never ever know who is out there that can't afford to access DBT, who is too shy to even register in Forum Land, but who follows along silently with our adventure. I find that thought amazing, and that is why I am perfectly fine just chattering along to myself.

Yay, we are doing the doing bit CheerBear!!!!!!

I super hate that there is a huge bus with a housing sign on it driving around your world, CheerBear. I so very very badly wish that buses didn't exist. I have the huge TTT bus driving around my world too. I think buses should be banned. Yay for there being no buses in Forum Land!!!!! 

I so very badly wish you had stability in your housing situation CheerBear. Listening to you and others talking about that stress makes me recognise afresh how privileged I am to own a home. Of course, I have the stress of trying to pay a mortgage while living on welfare, but I recognise that something extremely dire would have to happen for me to lose my house (just watch, my house will burn down tonight!!! ). If I found eleventy million dollars in the street (and the owner didn't claim it after I took it to the police ), I would definitely buy you and your LF a house. 

I hope today is a good day for you @CheerBear

[Phoenix_Rising]

I have so much I want and need to do, but I can't make my brain work because it is too full of big feelings. I am still struggling SO MUCH over the situation with therapist-take-thirteen, and the Forum Land oopsie is adding to the big feelings even more. @Former-Member or @NikNik, could you maybe do a fly over the ocean if you are around?

[Former-Member]

Morning @Phoenix_Rising

Just wanted to let you know that I am also flying around, hearing you unti the feelings settle like they have done in the past, you will get there 🙂

[Former-Member]