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21 May 2018 01:07 PM
21 May 2018 01:07 PM
Sorry for all the mistakes above 😳 in the edited bit @Bunniekins
21 May 2018 01:12 PM
21 May 2018 01:12 PM
@MazaritaThe ambos can only call for back up with the police which I would refuse because of my trigger with police ... then take him to hospital. They were helpful and said I should contact his psychiatrist about getting some prn medicine to calm him down (he has an appointment in late June which I will ask then). H has threatened me but has never hurt me physically just mentally with words. I am so sorry you are not doing well today.... wish you were here and I would take you and all the girls for a coffe and cake on the pea for a big thank you 🙂 xxx
21 May 2018 01:15 PM
21 May 2018 01:15 PM
@Teej lol Teej :D. Sorry about your son it must have been a huge shock when it happened when they are big like that you are small.... great that he is now a lovable gental giant and that is the same with my son generally and that is the shock of it one moment soft and gentle next moment like Maz said a Jeckyl and Hyde.
21 May 2018 01:16 PM
21 May 2018 01:16 PM
@Bunniekins, coffee and cake with you and the other lovelies of the forum would be sooo good. What a thought, getting to know people I've had contact with for years, in the flesh! It would be an amazing get together.
21 May 2018 01:20 PM
21 May 2018 01:20 PM
@Mazarita it would be great wouldnt it to see the face behind the voice. I bet we would all be mightally surprised.
21 May 2018 01:24 PM
21 May 2018 01:24 PM
I'm sure we would be pretty surprised to meet each other in the world too, @Bunniekins. We probably look all different to what we imagine for a start. Then there would be all those detailed subtleties of body language, that we miss out on here on the forum. Fantasy is fun when it comes to these things. We'd probably all expect you to have a fabulous wardrobe!
21 May 2018 01:27 PM
21 May 2018 01:27 PM
Hi @Bunniekins
I read what was written here last night - by the time I got to the end your son had settled down - I thought about it but I couldn't think of anything helpful to say
I know what this is like - my son did not live at home but he was around a lot and there were times when I was terrified of him too - and for myself - and one night I went into a Salvation Army Shelter with my daughter who thought I was over-reacting
This is really hard to organise on a Sunday evening/night - I know this seems drastic but for your own sake it might be an idea to organise something so you have a safety net in place in case this happens again - true - he might hurt himself but then - as hard as Tough Love is - that's his choice - the most important thing is to keep yourself safe
It's terrible - I know - you don't want him in hospital - or any kind of dentention - this I understand - it might happen though if he starts to hurt other people
I am so sorry you are going through all of this - last night I sort of froze when I read it and had to trigger-down myself but I am okay today - I just hope things work out for you
Sending my best thoughts
Dec
21 May 2018 01:30 PM
21 May 2018 01:30 PM
@Mazarita Hahaha! Well I have always been honest about my appearence saying I am a rolly, poley pea. 50 something mother of 3 Now if I told you I bought my clothing online at Myers, Target, Big W and K Mart you wouldn't be so surprised just a bit disappointed 😛
21 May 2018 01:33 PM
21 May 2018 01:33 PM
That's true, @Bunniekins. I've been honest about my own appearance, age, etc. too. But I still think there would be surprises! I'd be wearing mostly op shop clothes, or second hand from ebay. Occasional new purchases, but rare. I wonder what town or city we might all meet in! It'd be a big travel undertaking cos we're scattered all around the continent. A summit of SANE forum members, lol.
21 May 2018 01:35 PM
21 May 2018 01:35 PM
@Owlunar Hi Dec and thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry you have been through similar situations with your son. It is awful and very hard to get over each time it happens it is like you are reliving it over again.... I understand I was getting triggered last night over and over again.
I just really appreciate all the love that has been shown to me by my forum friends. Great group of people that you all are xxx
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