A memory of our dads

[Whiteknight]

It's been 26 years since his passing and I'm now his age when he did...62yo thereabouts. How do you cope? A "salt of the earth" parent that loved you unconditionally?

My dad was old fashioned but righteous and deep with love, but as I was a boy, he never touched me eg cuddles after 7yo.

TO KISS HIS TEMPLE

There were some things I knew as taboo

to express my love but to question who?

to touch the pale face of my dad back then

when touching taboo...when "men were men"

For boys were male and "you cant do that"

jealous of my sister and that is that

that man couldnt hug his son for how he was seen

nowadays if you hugged your son- well, you'd be relieved.

And so my dad the salt of the land

wouldnt touch me even by hand

he knew he loved me and I him

with a wink of an eye from under his brim

Then that day we all regret came along

where watery eyes was met by song

and there he lie with an eerie smile

I be alone with him for just a while.

As I stroked his forehead cool to touch

I raised my head automatically as such

to kiss his temple of which I dare

I knew his mind was well aware.

Of all the kisses I missed

they gathered together in just one kiss

finally as his spirit rose and went

he left his love and hugs were spent

I never craved again heart be blessed

that tradition of males their love expressed

a kiss on his forehead way back then

ended an era when "men were men"....

WK

[BlueBay]

Love and hugs to you @Whiteknight ❤️❤️

I totally understand what you mean because it never happened to me either from my dad or my Mum. 

[Whiteknight]

Hi @BlueBay

Life, we are dealt an imperfect one. Some people cant have children (my wife) so have missed out on child birth, some have learning difficulties, etc. 

What we need to do is bounce back eg ensure we provide our children with the support and affection we missed out on.

Sometimes our options aren't many.

[Queenie]

My Dad is still alive although he is so distant towards me, he may as well be passed away. After years of mental abuse at the hands of his wife and him not stepping up to help me in that situation. I am now shunned as an adult. He hasn't hugged me since before my Mum died almost three decades ago. I am not yet forty years old and am mourning the death of both of my parents (even though one is still alive). Does this make me cold hearted?