Am Not Coping

[BlueBay]

hope it all goes well tonight @Faith-and-Hope xxoo

[Zoe7]

I understand that there have been massive changes to his personality and that they are part of a family history of such but my concern is of course with you and how this affects you. I don't like seeing what happened to you yesterday happen - I hurt for you Hon and I suppose being through that kind of pain gives me an insight into how much it does affect you even though you show enormous strength in the face of it. Walking on eggshells (for you all) is no way to live but I do also get that you want this family unit to function as best it can.

I do hope tonight is a bonding experience for you all - and that Mr. and the kids all get something out of it that you cn all look back on and share with fond memories. This is Mr. F&H trying to share something thatis so important to you all - your love of art and that is commendable - it does show there is a part of him that wants to understand and be part of what the family enjoy @Faith-and-Hope.

[Faith-and-Hope]

That’s right @Zoe7 ..... he is still invested in the relationships and trying to make his way forward.  Events like yesterday land on the Richter scale for us, but there is a lot he is giving on a day to day basis, including taking D2 out and about with him while I am at uni, and bringing home some meals too.  This is all new territory for him, and things like supporting your wife’s choice to go back to studies doesn’t fit with his family’s ideas ..... so he is bending with that one too, and causing his family to accept it because he has.

[Zoe7]

It is great that he is supporting you in going back to uni Hon and I understand that that is not something that aligns with his family's views. It is also great that he is taking responsibility for D2 when you are at uni - that all does show a bending in what he believes. I know you also want to see the good in everyone and despite Mr. 'falling down' in some areas he is trying. I just hate it when you are on the other end of the abuse - knowing you don't deserve to be treated like that under any circumstance @Faith-and-Hope. I feel for you Hon and that won't change but I also get it is complicated and you are doing the best you can under incredibly tough circumstances. We can all hope nd pray that Mr. can one day get the help he needs and going through all that you are is worth it to get back - to some extent - the man you once knew.

[Faith-and-Hope]

💚 @Zoe7 .....

[Sans911]

Hmm... Not getting notifications this afternoon @Faith-and-Hope

@Former-Member are you aware of this?

[utopia]

Sorry @Zoe7 Just logged in.  Have you done some gardening today?  Seems to be your main activity at the moment. 

I had another boring quiet day.  Seeing my case worker tomorrow.  We need to go through my finances.  Not looking forward to it.  As CentreLink pension reduced by half now son is 16 & child support  cut in half because they have another baby.  Need a big tattslotto win,  I think that will fix everything. 

[Former-Member]

Hmm curious @Sans911 - I will email you. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Former-Member .... 👋

[Faith-and-Hope]

Morning @Zoe7 and anyone else up this early here ..... 👋☕️💕