Sorry I had to leave suddenly @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member - I know you all understand though.
Had a minor meltdown - doing better now (which isn't saying much) but am safe.
@Former-Member I understand those feelings - had them myself on here. I don't know what happened for you but whatever it was it is NOT OK. I do feel like there have been a lot of changes and some of them definitely not for the good. There have also been some posts that I have seen that are not in the spirit of this forum that have been 'let go' and others that have been 'pulled' or needed editting where the intention of the poster was not to cause any 'harm' but to seek support. There is often a fine line between these posts and often the poster will skate very close to the edge of the guidelines without completely crossing over - but that does not mean the intent of that post(s) is not threatening, hurtful or triggering for others. I do not know what the answer is @Former-Member - as the bigger the forum gets, the more this can happen and subsequently the more it may also go 'unnoticed' by some or seen as innocuous without context.
I have probably completely added to your feelings of how hard it is here now @Former-Member 
@Former-Member I have found, at times, thst there has been 'intervention' that has actually inflamed a 'situation' when a true 'reading' of the situation would have avoided this. This is not just with members either 
I get that 'people' often come 'on' in between conversations or often only 'see' posts in isolation - but when this happens it can often validate someones already negative feelings. Sometimes I actually sit back and say ' no you did not just say that!' - then watch the aftermath unfold
I thought it was just me.