@Former-Member I have found, at times, thst there has been 'intervention' that has actually inflamed a 'situation' when a true 'reading' of the situation would have avoided this. This is not just with members either  I get that 'people' often come 'on' in between conversations or often only 'see' posts in isolation - but when this happens it can often validate someones already negative feelings. Sometimes I actually sit back and say ' no you did not just say that!' - then watch the aftermath unfold