Am Not Coping

[Zoe7]

@Faith-and-Hope You would think so Hon but all his behaviour over the last few years have shown he has had to control everything in his life externally to be able to deal with the internal changes. This may in-fact be a real turning point for both you and him - finally he may be not just seeing how truly amazing you are but recognising how much you have 'given up' to keep the family together. I really hope that your relationship as friends can begin to grow into something that is strong and meaningful for both of you - remember YOU have the power here now to take this where you want to - YOU have taken the first major steps and he is simply following in your footstepsnow - where that leads you both is entirely up to you now Hon - and I'll be by your side along the way 

[Faith-and-Hope]

I will be sticking to “just friends” until such a time as he seeks help to be able to make us something more than that, because his personality previously was gorgeous, as you might imagine .... but now even if that were to revert back (and we experience aspects of it around the p.d. and e.d.) .... it now comes attached to behaviours I just can’t co-exist with in a marital relationship.

[Bubbles3]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Bubbles3 .... 💕

[Zoe7]

He must have had a gorgeous personality for you to fall for him Hon 

The dynamic between you both has shifted so far from where you started out that even if he 'magically' changed there is so much water that has gone under the bridge (and at times flooded the bridge) that you will never be able to re-discover what you both once had. Any future will be one of new journeys together and would in-fact be starting a 'new' relationship from the beginning - if that is where it does take you Hon then I would be really happy for you - if it doesn't - guess what - still here and still by your side @Faith-and-Hope 

[Faith-and-Hope]

And I love you for that @Zoe7 .... ❤️❤️❤️

And so many others here who have helped to carry me forward when I ran out of steam, which is how I was when I arrived on the forums.

[Former-Member]

hi

[Zoe7]

Well Hon - that goes without saying 

As hard as it still is for me on here - you do keep me going and make me want to stay connected (even if it is a ittle bit). Is that enough for me - at the moment YES. I have gotten through some really hard times with you (and others here too) by my side - and this week has been one of those. So selfishly I am glad you are here because I have met you - I wish it was not under the circumstances that brought us both here but it is what it is and we did meet - and you know that means the world to me @Faith-and-Hope

Hi @Former-Member

[Faith-and-Hope]

Happy tears for silver linings @Zoe7 .... 💜💦

[Zoe7]

I was going to write silver linings myself but thought I had rolled out enough metaphors @Faith-and-Hope lol