@Faith-and-Hope You would think so Hon but all his behaviour over the last few years have shown he has had to control everything in his life externally to be able to deal with the internal changes. This may in-fact be a real turning point for both you and him - finally he may be not just seeing how truly amazing you are but recognising how much you have 'given up' to keep the family together. I really hope that your relationship as friends can begin to grow into something that is strong and meaningful for both of you - remember YOU have the power here now to take this where you want to - YOU have taken the first major steps and he is simply following in your footstepsnow - where that leads you both is entirely up to you now Hon - and I'll be by your side along the way