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Re: My Hospital Stay

Ant nobody's business what's going on in your room @utopia (yeah sorry, I can't keep up with yours and Zoe's pun game). Glad you had those calm moments and that your allocated nurse was much more understanding. Hope today has treated you well.

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Sending you a restful corner @utopia ..... ❤️💕

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@utopia Thinking of you my beautiful little cocky friend Heart

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Thinking of you my friend @utopia HeartHeart

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Part 2
Day 3
Today you wouldn't recognise me. You wouldn't be able to tell that since Thursday I have been struggling so much and that yesterday was the scariest thing I have EVER experienced.
Today just woke up feeling ok. Went to a group in the morning. @Former-Member - had an AHA moment. I realized something that I think is important. Since my workplace incident and this MI - I have been trying not to 'feel' & that when feelings come up I divert, or self medicate - to not feel. Yes I already knew this. But it just dawned on me that I think I have been trying not to feel or show a lot of my emotions since childhood. To avoid my dads anger. To not deal with his blubbering in a corner mental breakdowns. I think I learnt, that most of the times, it was safer not to feel.
Such a 'hit mr on the head' moment that after group - I went to my room and expanded on this new awareness.
I've decided tomorrow I will email what I have written about this to my psychologist - because I think it is something that I need to explore in depth. And I don't want to forget about it when I go back home. So yay.
The rest of my day was good.
I'd now like to say that I can understand in part, what some of you are going through day in day out - with regards to SI & plans.
I always knew it must be hard and I always tried to empsthise. But my short period (fingers crossed the good days stay) of fearing that everything was a potential risk for suicide and not being able to rationzlise at all. I get it now. Even though my experience was not the same as yours and not as long. I'm sorry some of you suffer this. I'm sorry if you are still stuck in that cycle. And I'm sorry I never fully understood what you were truly going through. ♥♥
Now to the ants. I'm in a shared room for 2 - but there's only me at the moment. No ants in this bed - so the cleaner made my bed - and moved my drswers to this side of the room. I only had to move my clothes on the shelves. The cleaning staff have now been instructed to use NO chemicals in my room at all.
At dinner got hit by perfume - so my sensitivities went sky high. Everyone then smelt. I could smell their sosp and shampoo etc, that hasn't been a problem any othed day. So swollen sore throat. Intense pain. Neurological defecit immediately. Lose of words. Ability to think. Took 3 hours to get back to normal - but that's with isolating myselfa bit from others. SSeriously they smell like they have bathed in a vat of perfume
But I'll be going to sleep soon. Another new day tomorrow. And hopefully no longer hypersensitiv.
Sweet dreams all.

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@utopia sweet dreams to you too my beautiful little cocky friend Heart

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Hi @utopia

 

I am glad you have had this AHA click - wow - what an epiphany!!

 

That is so good - so fantastic - and I am glad you have battled through the darkness and into the light - this is the way up - I was so glad to read this

 

I have been reading some of your posts - certainly your updates/journal - I felt that was important - it was hell for you

 

Still thinking of you - I felt like a dead weight myself with nothing at all I could write - but I am feeling better tonight -

 

Lots of hugs Utopia - you are fighting a war about which I have no idea about the structure - the insides - whatever

 

Dec

 

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Wow, @utopia,

you are moving ahead so quickly! That's great that you had an a-ha moment. That is so wnderful that you were able to return to your room and write about it, too. And to email your psychologist about it? That is a great idea. 

I think I can relate to that feeling of not wanting to feel anything. Becuase we assume that if we allow ourselves to feel something... then it will be very, very bad and we won't be able to endure it. But this is not true. When we allow ourselves to experience our emotions fully- even anger, sadness, despair... those feeling pass. We become aware that all feelings pass. 

Yes, It painful to get in touch with our sadness... but once it is out in the open, we see it for what it is. Then it kind of isn't quite so bad as we thought it would be. It passes. 

Before I got very, severely depressed, years ago, I became completely emotionally shut down. I was like a zombie. Other people noticed it, but I shrugged it off, saying I was just "tired".  You see, I did not even know I was completely emotionally shut down! I thought I was normal.Smiley Embarassed

I knew I wasn't happy, but I wasn't especially sad, either. I was just existing. Everything I did, I did because I thought it was my duty. Work was a duty to be fulfilled. It wasn't enjoyable. My relationship with my partner was non-existent- but I went through all the motions like a 'good girl', anyway. It was my duty. I chose this person as a partner, now I had to endure them. That's what you do, isn't it?

No, it isn't.

It took an episode of major depression (bordering on psychosis) for me to realise that my life was not working and that I was the one responsible. 

I had to feel the grief and anger involved with knowing my relationship had ended. I had to deal with the uncertainty and disappointment that I had chosen a career that I actively disliked. I had to own these things. Once I did that, I could move forward. And moving forward was about a million times more rewarding than staying stuck and frozen in limbo. 

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Thank you everyone for contributing your experiences here too. We / I do learn so muchfrom oother patients here and members on here.
I can't name you all - because honestly, I have forgotten a lot of names. Lol among other things.
I'm having a bit of an up / down morning. But the downs are manageable - with my calmers.
I hope you are all continuing to support each other - I'm not really up for anything but focusing on me. But I do send you all love and hope that your day is an easier one.

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Hi @utopia

 

I am so glad you are feeling calmer - and coping better with the down-times - it's okay to take  the prns while you are so new at this

 

And yes - we are all learning here - I think of this as a sort of Peer Review Journal - we compare our lives and share what works and what doesn't and find new ways

 

And also - we know what is not working

 

Lots of hugs Utopia

 

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