Far and Away

[Shaz51]

Ha ha , I think she should of open the windows @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member 

our ceilings are 12 foot high

[Former-Member]

Glad it gave you a laugh, I thought the reference to husband not getting help was pertinent 😕 but water - what a pain, so unsettling having tradies around. And ruined piano, must have been a lot of water, poor F&H ☔💧🐳

[Shaz51]

@Faith-and-Hope

[Former-Member]

@Faith-and-Hope Looking for you, hope you're holding up. Read somewhere things might be coming to a head at home there 😞 that WH undermining you. being more difficult, enabled by MIL. I get that you must feel lonely in the storm 😞  Just wanted to let you know i'm thinking if you.

My journey is so much hetter than it was a year ago - you probably didnt realise at the time but i have you to thank for a big part of that, all your beautiful posts to everyone.- I'll always remember you. Holding you in the light of prayer, always

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thanks @Former-Member ..... 🤗💕

I'm okay. Just visiting with my dad at the moment and he doesn't have wifi, so being a bit careful with my data, but thinking of y'all .....

This are coming to surface by degrees, as S2 is reviewed by a psychiatrist, and he is looking at personality types .... think this is going to feed back to WH, but whether that brings the whole e.d. to light, or just how severe his control issues are and messed up dynamics with mil now under the progression of it all, dunno ......

Have to wait and see, and the best way to not stress out about it is to stay as tuned out and distracted as possible at the moment. It will be what it will be in due course and is just going to send me spiralling with anxiety if I try to second-guess what is going to happen and upset myself with it all.

What I am looking at is how I can try to phrase things to explain enough about what is going on to give the pdoc as many gigantic clues as I can ...... cos it's likely I will be sitting in the same room as WH while answering questions, so I am going to have to use terminology that doesn't trigger his temper but still get some sort of message across.

Trying to rephrase "extremely conteolling" and "excessive rewarding" as parenting terms, and how to describe "guiding and nurturing" style parenting as the opposite form.

Using the time here to mull that over, cos the apt is this week, and I've got to give it my best shot.

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @oceangirl @Zoe7 @Former-Member ...,, anyone else who is around ...,

Yes, my dad lives by the ocean. I will post some pics when I am home tomorrow and back in possession of my trusty iPad ......

I managed three very short beach walks. A lot of time was spent helping to restructure things a bit in my dad's house to make it easier for him to manage and help declutter a bit.

The weather has been beautiful - not cold and not hot. It's semi-rural, so it's peaceful
and there is wildlife about.

[oceangirl]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope 

I bet your Dad is happy to spend some time with you. I am glad the weather as been nice too. When is S2's appointment, I hope the specialist is able to help him some more. Because anxiety does not improve with age and its important to get that sorted as soon as possible.

I am just at home tonight- its the first night that I have felt the cold here. I have some appointments tomorrow and going out to dinner tomorrow night.

[Faith-and-Hope]

I have an appointment with the pdoc, together with WH on Thursday. He wants to see both of us, presumably together. I am not sure when S2's next appointment is or whether one has been scheduled yet.

Considering the family dynamics as they have developed around WH's eating disorder, I am relieved that S2 is receiving counselling and support for his anxiety issues.

Stay warm, and I am glad you have a dinner out tomorrow night. Enjoy ❣️

[Former-Member]

@sounds beautiful @Faith-and-Hope, wish I was there. Hope pDr apt goes well this week, but my experience it it will probably be early steps of a 2yr+ process. Stay strong, pace yourself 🙂

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thanks @Former-Member. My plan is to see what the dr asks and answer as honestly as possible. I believe the answers will reveal the problems quite naturally, because inside the smoke screen it is blatantly clear. As much as S2 needs his issues addressed, they are closely influenced by WH, and D3 is carrying the same sort of personality type and mindset, (so she might be next), but we really need WH diagnosed, and the relationships between his issues and what is happening with everyone else understood, otherwise it's just a bandaid solution over S2 .....