Check-In

[tyme]

Hi Everyone, 

We wanted to provide a space for people to debrief if they feel the need to @ShiningStar @ArraDreaming @Oaktree .

Sometimes, we don't fully understand what has happened and may never know. Rest assured, SANE staff will be looking into it.

For now, moderators have taken the necessary steps to keep the forums a safe space.

Feel free to use this space to check-in with each other and share:

1) How are you feeling at the moment

2) How are you will practice self-care 

Let's make this a space to support each other at this time.

We ask that members limit details as we look into this, and remember the RESPECT guideline (refrain from name-calling etc.)

Thank you for understanding. 

If you have any questions, feel free to email us at team@saneforums.org

[Oaktree]

Thanks @tyme 

Are you feeling ok @ArraDreaming @ShiningStar 

So sorry that this has happened to you. 

[Oaktree]

@tyme 

Just to let you know that I am fine. Arra just asked me for help to get the attention of Sane staff.

Thank you for taking steps to make sure that the forums remain a safe space.

[ArraDreaming]

I didn’t know @ShiningStar was involved too
@Oaktree I am feeling hurt, they kept saying I was getting what I dished out but I have never been hurtful or so personal attack someone so relentlessly
This place is meant to be safe to everyone

[Snowie]

Hi all,

Thanks @tyme for giving this space to members.

@ArraDreaming I'm sorry that our conversation ended like that. Am happy to continue it if you would like some support tonight. It wasn't pleasant reading what happened and I hope you are ok.

I think a lot of us might be feeling confused. 

I am around for a bit if anyone would like to chat

Snowie xoxo

[Oaktree]

@ArraDreaming 

I think the other person was in a dark space themselves tonight. Please try not to take it personally. We have to remember that everyone in this space has a mental illness going on. They may not be fully aware of what they were doing. I know it’s a big ask but you need to try and give them the benefit of the doubt. I know when you have been angry with me that you weren’t in the best place and you didn’t mean to be hurtful. It might be hard to let go of it right now because it’s so fresh but please do try. Sane will keep an eye on things going forward. 

[ArraDreaming]

Yeah but I haven’t said tings like that to people, I have hurt people but it has not been intentional or so personal. @Oaktree
If they are in dark place I see that but that is not a reason to bully someone and be so relentless it was across 4 threads and didn’t stop it just kept going
I never want see them on this site again and if they come back I’m gone @Oaktree

[ArraDreaming]

They had intentions to be hurtful the words they used were hurtful

[Oaktree]

Yes I agree it was relentless @ArraDreaming

Sane are still looking into it and will make the best decision for the community I am sure

[Oaktree]

Thanks @Snowie 

I am sure that @ArraDreaming  could use the support right now. What just happened was not pleasant. He did a remarkable job staying calm