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30 Oct 2017 12:45 PM
30 Oct 2017 12:45 PM
@Phoenix_Rising I have just emailed you. I know its tough right now, keep riding the wave and floating on the island.
30 Oct 2017 12:46 PM
30 Oct 2017 12:46 PM
30 Oct 2017 01:42 PM
30 Oct 2017 02:26 PM
30 Oct 2017 02:26 PM
I am superly duperly glad we are not-friends @CheerBear. Today is HARD. Staying still is a good plan. At least, I'm not exactly staying still because I am rocking A LOT! My turtle whisperer is going to call later so I am practicing waiting. Knowing she will call sometime is superly duperly helping.
I like that you also don't like that stupid saying. It is definitely not true that what doesn't k*ll us makes us stronger. That saying is the anthesis of all that we know about the effects of trauma on the brain. I know that today's muddle in my world is really not a big muddle at all - it is just the straw that has broken the turtle's already-super-fragile shell. This is the problem now - EVERYTHING sends me into chaos. My "window of tolerence" is about two millimetres wide. I'm guessing you are the same @CheerBear. Things I could have coped with in the past, I can no longer cope with, and it is getting worse at an alarming rate. This is why the whole therapist-shopping thing is so near-impossible now. It infuriates me when people try to tell me "well you've done it before so you can do it again." Er...no!!!! That's like saying "well you ran the first 100 metres at that speed so you can run the rest of the 10km race at the same speed." My brain is FRIED. I feel really really really scared.
@Former-Member I never knew your island could fly this high. We can see all of Forum Land from up here. Look! There is @CheerBear in her nest, and there is @Former-Member in her book pod on the ocean. It feels safe up here with just you right now. Can I please have a turn of steering the island? It's not like I can crash into anything up here...except maybe @Former-Member or@NikNik. Watch out Lunar and NikNik, I'm going to have a turn at flying Lauz's island. What happens if I pull this lever this way Lauz...oh...oopsy...
30 Oct 2017 03:18 PM
30 Oct 2017 03:18 PM
Hey @CheerBear, since my brain is too puddled to do anything much right now, I am conducting an experiment to try and figure out if I can create a live tag in WordPad. Your job is to let me know if you get a notification for this post.
30 Oct 2017 03:43 PM
30 Oct 2017 03:43 PM
30 Oct 2017 05:08 PM
30 Oct 2017 05:08 PM
Hi @CheerBear,
I am so super super super mad at the three buses for squishing you! I so very VERY badly wish I could buy you and the LF a house. I am secretly hoping that after you sit with the super giant feelings for today, then tomorrow or the next day or sometime your brain will unmush and you will figure out the next step. But for today we can sit together in the puddled muddled confuddle. My brain must be as puddled and muddled and confuddled as yours because I don't have the slightest idea what you mean by my window words...and that's ok.
Methinks that today has been quite the disaster for both of us CheerBear, but that doesn't mean that tomorrow will be the same. HOORAY for not living on Venus. Just think, if we were only seventeen hours into the day on Venus, we would still have another 5815 hours to go until tomorrow. As it is, we only have seven hours to go. THANK GOODNESS we don't live on Venus!!!!
30 Oct 2017 05:53 PM
30 Oct 2017 05:53 PM
30 Oct 2017 08:09 PM
30 Oct 2017 08:09 PM
Hi @CheerBear,
I managed to get to yoga tonight and right at the end when I was supposed to be focusing on my breath and just being, the thought suddenly popped into my brain; "oh I know what CheerBear was talking about - the window of tolerance."
I agree that we are completely muddled and puddled and confuddled together but not. Two melted snow flakely banana heads!
The conversation with my turtle whisperer superly duperly helped. She is on a bit of a mission to start compiling a list of backup options in case the potential TTT doesn't work out. Having options will super help me to feel calmer - I know you get that, CheerBear. My turtle whisperer emailed me the list of possibles that she has come up with so far. Yeah...tomorrow I'm going to have to break it to her that the one that looks best on that list based on distance from my home etc. was therapist take eight. Therapist-take-eight was only one of two therapists who I only saw for a single session (the other being therapist-take-eleven). With therapist-take-eight, I was on the floor screaming and SHing within five minutes of walking in the door, and continued that way until she booted me out at the end of the hour. I curled up in my car and continued the chaos for a very long time until I was safe to drive home. And people wonder why the thought of searching for TTT is so completely traumatizing.
I am so very VERY grateful that I have my turtle whisperer to help me with this mission. Given that she can't commit to actually doing intensive therapy with me, this is the next best thing. If she can help me to find someone as awesome as she and K are, then I may yet unmuddle my muddled brain. I just have to survive the process of FINDING TTT first!
It is all so wrong, CheerBear. I so badly wish we could educate the whole world on what it means to be trauma sensitive. I don't understand why it is hard to understand...and yet apparently it is. We will HAVE to keep on keeping on CheerBear so that we can change the world...right after we fix our puddled brains.
Hey...do you want to know a secret? @Former-Member and @Zoe7 I want to tell you my secret too. Yesterday I was daydreaming about setting up my own psychology practice. It kind-of came about because of the whole thing with TTT. I am trying to get my head around who exactly has demanded that TTT get paid to speak with my turtle whisperer. Apparently you can have a "practice manager" or a "practice owner" and these aren't necessarily the same person. This got me thinking because you don't need to be a psychologist to own a psychology practice. If I was to own a practice, I couldn't treat clients (because I'm not a psychologist), but I could employ psychologists (and social workers etc) to treat clients. So, I would call all the shots in terms of processes etc and I would choose who I employed. Thus I could truly create a trauma-sensitive practice with a specific focus on treating trauma. Of course given that today I have been in utter crisis, the idea doesn't sound quite as simple as it did yesterday. I think it would have to be in the "not now" box, but I don't think it is in the "never ever" box.
I wonder what @Former-Member @Former-Member @NikNik @Former-Member might think of this idea???
I am going to try and do the first bit of the DBT doing bit tomorrow @CheerBear. I have so much stuff I need to do at the moment and with today being such a write-off, the list just keeps growing. I SUPER hope tomorrow is a brighter day for both of us. Only four hours left of today now - yay!
30 Oct 2017 08:25 PM
30 Oct 2017 08:25 PM
@Phoenix_Rising I think that is one of the most super daydreams ever and I super like that you’re putting it in the ‘not now’ box and not the ‘never ever’ box. 😊
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