when does the crap at least ease off let alone stop?

[tisme]

what a year and its only April , now I wait to see if the drugs I am on for Arthritis have effected my liver etc. (something they dont warn you about when prescribing.). I find out the results tomorrow, so ofcourse I am beyond stressed. wouldnt be so bad if I was on my own but when u have dependents and there is only me................... 65yo spent a life time caring for everyone else now I need care I am alone. ....typical

[Ru-bee]

Hi @tisme 

I'm glad that you've been able to post here and share what's going on for you at the moment. Firstly, I just want to say that you're not alone, the forums community is here with you. Havins said that I can absolutely understand the disappointment of not having those you have cared for be here for you now that you're needing some care.

What time is tomorrow's appointment? Please feel welcomed to share how it goes if you feel comfortable 

[tisme]

been a carer of family for decades, to the point that I couldn't have a paying job (was an ex-nurse) mum /dad/brother and daughter, first three are gone now. just me and daughter (who has had and has her own health issues, so do I now aged 65 I seem to have spent my life fighting one battle or another (a lot of it government agencies for help that never came).   Friends I thought I had, I did till I was the one that needed help.  Daughter now 40 sits at home doing nothing because of an idiot boss. this year has been an expensive one (I am on carers daughter is on disability. we don't qualify for govt housing because we are above the income limit. with my issues now I worry what will happen to daughter when I am gone.  Don't want her to get mixed up with the guardianship board I have known to many nightmares they have created for people. So many carers like me will die caring.  No superannuation, A lot is said about people my age retiring and such. Not for people like me. The government wont even recognise us as workers, because as they say " you do for family".  I am burned out   I go tomorrow to find out the results of scans of the abdomen to see what if any damage arthritis medications have done. 

[tyme]

Hey @Shaz51 , feel free to share your insights to the above post 🙂

Welcome @tisme !

[Shaz51]

Hello and hugs @tisme 

Letting you know that you are not alone my friend and sending you understanding hugs 🫂 

Thinking of you for tomorrow appointment 

I was carer for my mum for years before her passing last year 

And my husband and my 4 adult step children all have mental health problems 

I am 60 and on the DSP because of my health problems,  have kidney disease stage 4 , 17 % with only one kidney 

Also lots of complications to go with it 

Have Osteoporosis which they are still deciding what treatment to use because of the kidney disease , I am 60 

It is so important to look after ourselves so we can look after others 

Coping Toolbox ( what is in yours to help you cope ) 

Here for you if you want to chat 💕 

@tyme , @Ru-bee 

[tisme]

I dont have a coping toolbox 

[tisme]

insights??

[Shaz51]

Morning @tisme 

Thinking of you today xx

Coping Toolbox  is having items available with things you like to do , like arts and crafts,  walking , reading having a coffee,  little things like sitting outside with a cuppa , gardening 

What do you like to do and what things does your daughter like 

Have you got furbabies 

[tisme]

don't have fur babies anymore would like another but can't afford the vet fees.  Grrrrrrr the doc I usually see is off today so I can see another (who gets uppity if u see him when u can't see someone else at noon or wait till Tuesday. so, I chose to see dr uppity. didn't get to sleep till the early hours, could have slept in do I see dr uppity and find out what is wrong , cant do anything till tuesday or do I see my usual doc on tuesday ( its easter weekend). 

[Ru-bee]

Hi @tisme have you decided whether to go today or wait until after the long weekend?

Thinking of you either way