He has been living that way for a long time @Snowie ...... but that is going to be up to someone else to sort out with him at some point. At least my go-slow mode is showing the kids that catastrophic living is not the norm, and they don’t have to follow that example.

With so much going on when the kids were younger, I used to make the school holidays a go-slow zone, but then mr. started to plan holidays away every school break ...... which was fine when we were going on chill-out type holidays ...... and the kids were young enough for me to insist on a rest time during the day. This suited mr. as he threw himself into work online during our down-times.

When we started overseas travel he created punishing schedules, and I had to point out to him that we were returning the kids to school exhausted instead of rested after each holidays .......

It’s so clear in hindsight, understanding more about the nature of this thing. I think it will help the kids to moderate themselves. They are genetically half me ...... and I have an idea that my personality type and my mr.’s often find each other as a pairing .......

I expect we will learn more about that eventually too .......

I’m on my second coffee ..... 😊