The fact that WH can't see that he is not actually supporting S2 when he hasn't slept shows that although he may 'know' there is a mi in play - he believes 'taking control' will help solve it. That will only lead to further issues down the track for both of them! Co-dependency, tough love, unhealthy expectations etc. will not help either of them in the long run - and as always - you are on the 'outer', looking in and seeing exactly what is happening with little or no 'power' to do anything  

@Faith-and-Hope I can only imagine how hard it is to see your kids 'hurting' and not be able to help as much as you would like. You certainly have so much strength and patience, despite what you have been dealing with - and what is to come. I so wish it was different for you Hon