WH is listening a bit sometimes now, when I try to explain some aspects of parenting ..... but it's still a huge muddle ..... the perfectionism, the need to control, his mother's parenting ideas mixed in here where they were held at bay before ..... swinging between good cop and bad cop ...... excessive rewarding ...... cotton-wool-wrapping ...... gahhhh !

All I can do is try to keep as closely to what was "our" parenting before wh went MIA ..... speak up where possible ..... take over to calm things down or do a mop-up at other times ..... try to counsel from the sidelines while not tripping over any triggers .....

Walking on eggshells when I am not in the washing machine or taking time-out.