Hey there @Owlunar2 ,

I hear you.

I've been on the 'other' side. I'm not sure if I have shared before, but I cut ties with family for many years. Not because I didn't like them, but I needed space to heal.

This may be totally different to your situation, but I'm so glad my parents were always there. They didn't nag me. They were just 'there' and that was enough. I knew they loved me (even if they didn't say it or show it). 

When I was ready, I re-connected with them and we a much better relationship.

The main thing is that I knew they were there for me. Maybe this is what will help your daughter return - when she's ready?