Sounds like a plan. @Owlunar2 Sometimes we do have to manage things, even though many nuanced feelings may be held in check. Its good you respect your daughter's partner.  Families end up having so many attachments that even tho I had studied it at uni level, I have found attachment theory limited, and only recently seeing some podcasts that start to develop the field. I liked Saussure, anthropologist, as he looked at culture and kin.  A problem with psychology is there are so many diverse theories and approaches.... objectivity in human realities is an impossiblity...

By the end of my mother's life I limited things, as a family therapist had warned me I should, 20 years earlier, way back before my brother finally completed his suicide.  He warned me about her as I was trying to get her involved in some therapy or broader way of viewing the world than her limited vision of whatever was in religion that suited herself.  I understood her wound or 'narcissistic' injury, moved away at 16 for self preservation, but forgave it too often. I did not realise how deep was her delusional defences that she would not realise the real damage she was doing manipulating my daughter.  I always normalised the Schizophrenia in my family.  I just accepted them as normal, but now as I age and have more time to look at how others negotiate the world, I see how wrong some things were.  In a way I have to accept my own delusional aspects and joke about it as being in 'fairy land' or 'wearing rose coloured glasses'.  These are the areas I need to work on socially.  Not being such a 'fragile flower', but allowing both my sensitivity and strength to prevail.  Its tricky ... with only cynicism or defences .. there is no hope or trust or space for real good will to arise ...

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