Thanks for your feedback and support @Zoe7 and @BlueBay

Yes - I do need support at times - I remember writing my story when I first joined but I never kept to a thread - just kept posting somewhere else - it's much better to have my story in the same place

Blue knows my son died 30 years ago Zoe - but maybe you don't - he would be 47 now - and I must be okay about him atm - I was having trouble starting a new topic - it had autosaved but I kept losing it - so I wanted to post this up

I have two elderly uncles and two aunts - and my beautiful daughter and grand-daughter as well - and my cousins - although I don't see them I keep in touch but when your family gets so grouchy it becomes too painful to stay something happens and we lose our place in the family story - in my case it's TS - and it hurts at times - eg - when one of my aunts died my dd told me - had she not been caring about me I would have read about my aunt on Facebook and this would be cruel

So it;s up to me to keep in touch with other people - I guess people think a bossy busy body would tell everyone everything - but no -

These last comments are just background info - people here - including both of you - have hard and huge stories - that's the way our lives are - through no fault of our own we are in such a place life can be very hard sometimes

Thanks girls

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