You are right @utopia - most of the time our wounds heal to scars - sometimes massive because of the extent of the damage

But my mother never healed because she could never accept that she was wrong - my sister might be the same

I remember when Dad died he was ready - as a man of faith - and he left quickly after his time came

My mother lasted for days in a comatose state - I was angry that the nurses didn't put her teeth in - I felt it could not have done any harm - I felt really angry through those days - nearly week -

Perhaps those of us who admit we are imperfect - because we all are - have it easy because we work hard out our faults and sorrows and ditch unnecessary burdens with therapy etc - whatever - just other people like our Forum Family

I feel a terrible sorrow for my mother and how she suffered - she could not know how she hurt me and how I forgave her everytime

But for all of that I have scars that are healed or are healing - like everyone who persists here - and I think of my scars as medals shaped like stars - worth having

Dec