Thanks @Zoe7

I had to wait ages for my double appointment that last 10 minutes and was free - and then wait for ages for a taxi - I am unable to think about dinner just yet

But it went well

I had this brilliant idea while I was talking to him - I told him it was okay to be unhappy - we were brought up being told we had to be happy all the time - and he said that we didn't need to be unhappy all the time either

I said

"Supposing you had a noxious plant growing outside your bedroom window and it gave you a headache but you couldn't do anything about it because it was growing in the garden next door - would you be happy about that?"

I have the exotic thoughts at times - ah - he laughed

Btw - that's how I think about TS - she's a noxious plant that gives me a headache and I can't do a darn thing about her and I am unhappy about that

Dec