Hi @utopia

You are sensitive yet - and it will happen that people will say harmless and ordinary things that will set you off - and it happens and I have found the best thing is  that I need to leave the room for a few minutes

I was at a meeting - social - a while back and someone else who had lost a child started with her story - and she has told that story often and no doubt will continue too - and I can listen to someone tell such a story without a problem - but this lady hammered on and on until I got up to leave - not just the room but the whole building

I think she had her reasons - but it started to hit me in the wrong places and became too much but here's the thing - I only have to go as far away so I can't been seen and can't hear - and wait for a while - and return - we all have to have toilet breaks and that was a good time to have one

So for you - before you get the shakes - perfectly normal to get the shakes btw - find a need to leave - even if you just need to take a breather and hope that is all over when you go back

You know you have to care for yourself and you are learning more this time - so it seems to me

So take that deep breath - have a smoke - whatever - people will say what they will say and I have no doubt I tread on other people corns myself - although I rarely intend to

Are you the bug-girl - let's hope twin butterflies help

Dec