Hi @Adge. Radical acceptance and I have had a turbulent history 😆. The first time I did DBT I hated it and couldn’t connect with the concept at all. Late last year I did it again and have a much better understanding of it (well for me anyway). On that note please know this is how I worked it out for me........after being the pesky one in group who asked a million questions trying to get my head around it. 

So here’s teej’s take on it, others I’d imagine do it differently. 

1) we don’t have to like what we need to radically accept and probably never will. 

2) I think ‘it is what it is’  has helped me to accept things a bit easier

3) radical acceptance for me happens over a long time. I can’t just choose to accept something and ‘let it go’ as such for a long time. It’s more about not letting it have as much power anymore.

4) Again at a personal level just knowing I need to accept something is a huge starting point. It’s that little conscious thought in the back of your mind. 

5) sometimes it will still feel like this thing you are trying to accept still has power over you but other times it doesn’t feel so big any more. 

I went through something a few months back that I needed to radically accept. At the time it felt like a do or die issue. I knew I had to accept it at a logical level which I guess is owning it too. I hated that I had to but knew it was very capable of destroying me if I didn’t find a way to let it go and not have so much power over me. I tantrummed and cried and still felt the emotions but tried not to fight it or deny it was happening. For me knowing and telling myself that I had to accept it but didn’t like it helped. Over time I have been able to let it go. It’s not gone from memory but it’s not dominating like it was. For me it is a process that takes time and reminding myself that I need to accept this on repeat. 

Im not sure if others have similar experiences. I think I’d been so caught up with thinking I had to feel ok about it and it would be magically lifted from my shoulders and let go so to speak. I have a few other things to work on with this too lately. I hope this helps 💜🤗