Thank you @Former-Member. I would super like to think that is true, but I know that if I was to say it to any of the bazillion people who can't cope with me, they would tell me I'm not taking responsibility for my own actions. It is one of the mysteries of the world to me; when I say it is my fault, I'm castigated for being too hard on my self. When I say it is the fault of others, I am castigated for not taking personal responsibility. 
@CheerBear @Former-Member @Zoe7 I will be here but not today, I am volunteering and violining today -yay! It is tricky for me to be in Forum Land on Friday nights these days... 
Anyway, I will see you all when I see you. 