Please keep faith with the best in yourself @Phoenix_Rising. 

You are right we can have a fair idea about our own motivations ... 

but cannot presume to know the other party's FULL set of motivations in a dispute. The person may be a nice person and all that .. but maybe they are not the right person for you to continue your journey with.  If they dont get it for whatever reason .. they dont get it .. and go with flow of those who do.

One of the reasons I had a big picture view of community rather than a best friend, buddy view .. is that it allows for many degrees of separation ...

and connection.

and with enough degrees of separation maybe they can be out of sight .. out of mind.

You matter to me and I believe the forum would miss your input greatly.