@Snowie (I am gonna be a little bit facetious here, cos obvs I know its more complex than this but I just gotta let my cranky out... This is addressed to your mother, lol)

Maybe the reason Snowie can't 'just get over it even though other people seem to' is because those other people didn't have a parent breathing down their neck asking them constantly why they're not doing better! Maybe demanding wellness from someone is actually a really good way to shame them into further unwellness! Maybe you could try making space for Snowie's journey and accepting that it is her own and will take however long it takes!! 

Whooo boy... If I am this irritated just hearing about it, I can only imagine how much heavier it is for you living it. I'm sorry you have to deal with that darlin, sending you many big hugs 🫂🫂