@Phoenix_Rising ....

I have an arty-sciency brain.   I am reluctant to use the term "bad".  I use the term "good", but the opposite of that for me is usually not-so-good.  I see things more as differences, and that it is more about the reactions or consequences or outcomes of decisions and behaviours ....

So my answer is ..... your post was abrupt and very direct, which some people who don't have a connection or relationship with you could read as disrespectful and offensive.  I saw it as clear, direct, open and honest, with the potential to be viewed as disrespectful and offensive, but I knew you didn't mean it that way ..... and I believe wholeheartedly that Zoe wouldn't think you meant it that way either.  If @NikNik thought it ought to be modified to keep your meaning but soften the wording, she would tell you, without thinking of it as "bad".

Does that help, little turtle ?  I hope so.

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