@Phoenix_Rising ..... I read this in a book about language dialects ....

You could walk from Paris to Rome, village by village, and the whole way there the villagers you came across would understand the language sponpken in their village, and the surrounding villages .... but somewhere along the way, you will have moved from French into Italian .....

That principle can be applied to spectrums in general, which includes behaviour spectrums, and communication spectrums.

I hope that has given your aspie brain a concrete example to work from that helps to make it more understandable.

A communication that is so feeble and indirect that it is not heard or understood is at one end of the communications spectrum, and shouting obscenities is probably the opposite extreme .... most of the general public sit at a comfort level that spans across the middle somewhere.  Your very clear, direct communication is towards one end of that span, and the mod is asking that you fit it within the span because it is too confronting as it is,

Does that help ?