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I can hear that @Phoenix_Rising and I am a bit bewildered also. But I also know that there have been many changes (which neither of us cope at all with) and with those changes there will always be things we just don't understand. As hard as it is to hear that (and for me to write that) we sometimes just need to accept it. That is why I am sitting here with you as I know this will just add to your muddle.