Am Not Coping

[Zoe7]

I know you think you are doing the right thing by your family @Bubbles3 but you cannot function properly without food for that long - and that can only be detrimental to yourself and your family. It is impossible to stay 'on top of' your health  (physical and mental) if you do not eat. As I said before - just a little less for each member of the fmily will give you a little to eat also. My mother used to do the same when we were young and money was an issue but the consequences were that she didn't have the energy to cope with the violence or anything else - your kids will be better off with a mum that can engage than one that does not eat and does not have any energy.

[Bubbles3]

i know thats true what you are saying @Zoe7
but iv done this for so long know, i dont even feel hungry anymore until it hit the 5th day. my body has just gotten use t to that now. my hubby gets really p*ssed off with not eating. but its just hat im use to know

[Zoe7]

You need to 'get used to' it again @Bubbles3 - eating is not a luxury ew can pick and choose - it is essential to sustain life and not eating would be definitely affecting your mood. Just try a little each meal you have with your family - it doesn't have to be much to start with - just to get your body used to eating more regularly again.

[Bubbles3]

i know @Zoe7 🙂

i am starting to try. because of what hubby says.

its just hard having no money to buy food and i cant eat what the kids need to eat

[Zoe7]

You need to start trying for yourelf @Bubbles3 - not just because of what your hubby says. I know how tough it is with no money - keeping up with all the bills, feeding the babies (fur and human for you), buying food and essentials - all so tough when money is not coming in as it once was for me - struggling each day to cope with staying on top of it - then christmas, birthdays etc. come just as I was starting to get back on top of things - now I have to start from the beginning again.

I do need to go now Bubbly Boo but will check in later when I can.

[Bubbles3]

ok @Zoe7

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi everyone ..... 👋 💕

💚💕 @Zoe7 .....

@Bubbles3 ..... I know from what you have written that the pain in your jaw keeps you from eating a lot of foods too. Can you purée the food you give your kids, add a stock cube if it’s hot food, and boiling water, and make it into a soup for you ?

The same if you blend a salad and add some cold water, make it a smoothie ? Might need banana in there too.

If you have no money for food, please tak to charity organisations for some food vouchers to get you through, and your local community centre will have supports too. Reach out for the help you need @Bubbles3 .....

💐💕

[Bubbles3]

yeah thats another thing that started @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7
my jaw.

as soon as i eat something it hurt like crazy.
im to lazy to do up smothies and things like that. im really bad ith looking after mydelf

[Faith-and-Hope]

Maybe that has to be the one thing you have to do every day @Bubbles3 ...... or maybe you can make some sort of deal with your husband and kids, that if they make soups and smoothies for you, you will drink them.

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Bubbles3, as a carer I can tell you how much it hurts, and how helpless it makes you feel, to see something wrong happening and being unable to do anything about it.

Your husband and kids know that it’s wrong for you to not be eating, and it’s hurting them. In your situation your kids are care-kids ..... they are carers too ...... please help them to help you, because everyone has to live with your situation ...... it has to be able to work for everyone .......

I know you love them ...... please work together with them ...... it matters.