I have been giving thought as to when to make
stand vs accept and have listened to some talks about this.
The decision as to whether or not to make a stand also causes me internal conflict
@Phoenix_Rising as I would naturally want to make a stand as a result of feeling hurt and resentment rather than wanting to do what is right for the greater good. I need to examine my motivation.
I feel it is important to learn what is worth fighting for, indeed having things to fight for keeps us going. Things that are of value and worthy of conflict for me include health, relationships and hope over despair; these do not come naturally to me.
I have mentioned internal battles but there are also external battles and dealing with these is somewhat different. Conflict resolution can come at personal expense and we need to ask ourselves if we are prepared to pay this price.
By following some ground rules successful negotiations can occur with good outcomes for all concerned, this often involves humility, respect, listening and persistence, focussing on the problem and not the person.
When choosing to raise an issue, we have no control over the response of the other party or their willingness to resolve the differences we have.
Taking a stand takes courage and persistence, but in doing so we can often achieve results that go beyond ourselves and benefit others.
