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Dreamy
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Morning @Blackcloud, I'm sorry to hear this. That seems like such a waste of the courts time having to go through all of that just to have the IVO revoked. Does your mum know yet that you filed for the IVO? 

 

Yeah google really isn't always helpful when trying to find some answers and it's hard to know what's correct or false.

 

I know it's upsetting and it's hard to go through but try to not be too hard on yourself. Just take this one little step at a time and we will be here for you throughout the whole process ❤️

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@Dreamy I was just able to get in contact with a lawyer just then and so far he has helped me throughout this whole process and helped ease my stress!! 😭 I really hope the registrar can seriously consider this after I just sent them an email using the template he gave me to send to the registrar with. He told me that the magistrates court will open on Tuesday since Monday is a public holiday. So even though I sent an email to them i might go ahead and give them a call as well. Might as well speak to another Australian lawyer after this since it’s good to get suggestions and opinions from more than one professional.  

 

no she doesn’t know that I’ve filed it.

 

thank you ❤️🫂

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

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@Blackcloud I'm glad you were able to get in touch with a lawyer and it sounds like they were really helpful. Fingers crossed for you that the registrar can help out and you can get this resolved quickly. It's definitely good to get suggestions and opinions from more than one professional. You are doing amazing in trying to get this sorted out, really proud of you ❤️

 

 

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@Dreamy @I swear if this means me and my mum still have to go to the court hearing — well the lawyer did mention that they may request you to attend a hearing if they believed that there were risks involved based from what was mentioned in the application.. but I hope after I sent them the email to update on the matter, hopefully they can reconsider it. Fingers crossed. 🤞 I don’t ever want my and I to experience of having to go to court that I regret filing the order. 😭

 

I hope you’re doing well today xx

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

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@Blackcloud i know the thought of going to court is stressful and I really hope it doesn't come to that. I know you regret your decision in filing it but in that moment it felt like the right thing to do, it's just that things have changed now. Sending you hugs sweet, I really hope it's resolved without you and your mum having to go to court. 

 

I'm struggling today after a very rough night (i had a seizure) so just trying to take it easy today. 

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@Dreamy @The lawyer now said that it’s very likely that the registrar will be in contact with me in a few business days to announce the court hearing date and the possibility for us to go to court hearing is “most likely” 😞

nooo😭😭😭 now seems like my anxiety symptoms are back up again ..

 

sorry youre going through that, but I’m glad you’re planning on taking it easy for yourself today. ❤️ 

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

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@Blackcloud oh that sucks, I'm sorry sweet. I know it's not what you wanted to hear. Take some deep breaths, let's just focus on this moment, you have done all you can right now. There's still a few days until you will hear from registrar and nothing is set in stone until you do. 

rav3n
Peer Support Worker

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hey @Blackcloud just catching up your posts about your mum wanting to set you up again, and the IVO journey. sounds like a super stressful process to go through!!! and i can see that it's been keeping you up at night too - i really hope the revoking process goes in your favour, fingers crossed they don't require a court visit. also seems like you were feeling a mix of emotions before, how are you feeling now? sending you hugs 💙

 

also how'd you long weekend go, did you get some time to rest too? do you celebrate easter? 

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hi @rav3n I was lucky to be able to talk to two different lawyers - one of them I spoke to online he gave me a draft of the email template that I can send to the court IVO team with regards to my request to formally withdraw/revoke my IVO application, and I could seriously not thank him enough for being able to do that for me and making my life easier. Yes I had to pay in order for him to give me that draft lol, but it was worth it at the end. The registrar then got back to me in the same afternoon saying that the court will cancel my filed application.

 

another lawyer of mine (the one that’s actively handling my case with the court) told me the same day that he was on the phone with them after our initial call and that he’s waiting for them to confirm that they’ve cancelled/dismissed my IVO application and if that means that my mum and I won’t need to go to court. (FYI, I’ve applied to revoke the order the day after I applied the IVO, and since my IVO hasn’t been formally processed by the courts yet, it’s even better that way)

 

We’re gonna wait for that update from him tomorrow when he either gets to the court or calls them about it.

 

You know that feeling when at first you thought about actually doing something that involves a stressful/severely uneasy process (even worse, a legal process) thinking you were gonna feel relieved and quite happy about it even by the time you do the actual thing (in my case, applying the IVO), but then a while after you done the actual thing (submitted the IVO application) all of the stress, worries and fear that you get completely comes to you and sit with you for a while (to the point that it completely destroys you emotionally and mentally that it even makes you unable to do your usual routine effectively for DAYS) until you can get that ‘further action’ you initially took to be cancelled (especially officially cancelled/withdrawn).

rav3n
Peer Support Worker

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@Blackcloud ohh i see, so since it wasn't formally processed there's a good chance it can be cancelled/dismissed without the court visit!! fingers crossed you get good news tomorrow.

 

that makes sense, it's not what you expected, hey. things that involve the court, even the word 'court' itself just adds that stress factor. it was your first time going through this process, and you didn't realise how it would be. it's totally okay that you changed your mind and realised it wasn't doing your mental health any good. hopefully things with your mum can still be worked on and resolved in another way. 

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