Far and Away

[Owlunar]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope

What a battle you are having and now the nurse sees you as an "Absent Parent" in spite of all you do to keep your family together with such a pervasive influence from WH

I know I couldn't do it and I do understand a little because of what you have posted here which to us makes you the stuff holding your Baby Dragons together in the middle of an 18 months storm

Still sending faith and hope and prayers and my little Wednesday pic for today

Dec

[Faith-and-Hope]

Your situation is so different to mine @Zoe7, which is probably why there are no triggers, or very few ...... I don't need a "break" from you at all.

If I am ever absent from here for any length of time it is circumstantial ..... something irl has taken my time or attention, or both. I will always try to give you a heads-up if it's something like travel, or a major event like a wedding to go to.

If ever I have to close down my identity here, I will return with another one and let you and others know it's me. You will recognise me anyway because my life story won't have changed ..... just name and avatar ..... and by our online relationships we know each other.

💚💐💕

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Owlunar .... 💕

The Community Nurse only met with S2, although WH and I were at home at the time. She won't think I am absent. WH is just trying to sling mud at me because he has.been called controlling as a part of his ocpd diagnosis ..... and D3 told me that the pdoc had said that WH was controlling and I was absent ..... but that was probably in response to what WH was telling him.

I asked S2 outright (gently) if I was being absent, and he said not at all. So if the pdoc asks him ..... that will be his answer. I have made it clear in family counselling that I find WH's regiment offensive and keep myself absent from that as much as possible.

It will all come out in the wash @Owlunar ..... and it's an 8 year storm ......

💜

[Owlunar]

An 8 year storm @Faith-and-Hope - oh darn

That is bleak - wow - 

Yes - I understand that WH says things to make him look like the good parent and you look like you are part of the terrible load he is carrying - 

Yes - you need to care for your kids and him and take all of this and keep out of it as if you were absent - but you are most certainly not - I have been here for nearly 18 months and I wonder how you do it - 

It must be love - 

I so admire you for what you do - 

Dec

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thank you so much @Owlunar .....

I admire everyone here with all our individual challenges and struggles ..... and WH might find himself here one day too, when he is in recovery and having to learn how to communicate his emotions in a healthy way .... who knows ..... ?

💜

[Owlunar]

I so hope that happens soon @Faith-and-Hope

Dec

[Faith-and-Hope]

Me too @Owlunar ..... 💜

[Zoe7]

@Faith-and-Hope I know our situations are diiferent - as are everyone's here - but just like @Owlunar I so admire who you are and what you are doing for your family - against enormous obstacles. That is one of our biggest differences - you are 'keeping it together' for your family but I only have myself! It does get really hard when you are alone!

It is hard sometimes to get across when writing what one means - what I was trying to say is that I understand that sometimes we all need a 'break' from each other - a little distance even for a while - whether that be for our own personal needs or when someone else is becoming too over-reliant on someone - I just didn't want you to feel this was the case or there was any pressure on you - because that is the exact opposite to what I would want. I still don't think I am explaining myself well here - as I said - not in a good headspace to be thinking!!!

ps - if you left and returned under a new name and avatar I would DEFINITELY know it was you 

[Faith-and-Hope]

🤗💐💜💕 @Zoe7 ......

You are explaining well Hon ..... but I haven't reached a point of feeling that you are over-reliant on me at all. I am just so happy that we havecon ected with each other and we can be a "Cat and Toby" .... lol .....

[Zoe7]

Hahaha - I like that alot @Faith-and-Hope 'Cat and Toby' - you are the blissed out, just need the occasional cuddle and know she is loved Cat (who is also the oldest lol) and I am Toby - the little mop who won't leave mummy's side and is very reliant on that relationship to get through each day. 

Btw - I gave Toby a bath yesterday and I now don't have to mop the floor either!!!! (but Toby might need another bath lol)

Ok - on a more positive note (because I have been in such a negative mindset) I managed to sit outside yesterday for about 20 minutes. The sun is out today and the temperature is about the same - cold but the sun is warm - so I may be able to do that again a bit later on (if I am not asleep).