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Talking through trauma and PTSD

TW: Trauma and relationships

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It's completely understandable to feel uneasy about romantic relationships given your history. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to take your time in exploring what you’re comfortable with. 

 

It’s important to remember that any relationship, especially a romantic one, should be based on mutual respect, understanding, and consent. It’s okay to set boundaries and communicate your needs clearly. A healthy partner will respect your pace and be supportive, rather than pressuring you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

 

You deserve to feel safe and valued, and it’s possible to find someone who aligns with your comfort levels and respects your boundaries. Take your time, and don’t rush into anything. It’s okay to prioritize your healing and well-being.

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@RiverSeal masking is exhausting. It is also true many of us who are neurodivergent automatically mask. I am still trying to appear “neurotypical”, my mind probably believes that by appearing neurotypical, I will be accepted by others.

I find poetry more helpful than journaling because it gives me the ability to describe how I feel using imagery and metaphors. I often feel that I cannot express how I feel in simple language, maybe it’s just the way my brain works.

Today has been easier but I’ve also been distracted, a little anxious still, and hayfever season is a pain in the arse. I sort of over exerted my sore hand and now it’s hurting more.

Anyways, it would be nice to have someone in my life that I could turn to when feeling low. Sometimes you don’t need words, you just need a safe person

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hey @creative_writer i hear you, masking is very exhausting and it probably contributes largely to some of that burnt out feeling. i used to think that trying to appear like everyone else would help me feel accepted too but it made me feel more alone knowing that they don't know the real me. 

so many people told me 'just be yourself' and i just laughed because its way easier said then done. but in all honesty, the more authentic i was, the more i attracted people who were similar to me and the less i had to mask. it is scary, the fear of being rejected, the fear of never finding people who understand you, etc., they are there but when you start being yourself, over time it starts to feel easier and easier - and the reward outweigh the fear of rejection.

it does start with small steps though, maybe there's something little each week you can try to 'unmask' about yourself in front of others? 

 

also love that you have poetry as a form of expression - sometimes our feelings don't feel simple so it makes sense why you wouldn't really feel satisfied using simple words to explain it. poetry has a way of turning ugly emotions into such beautiful expressions of what it means to be human 💗 hope today's been a lil brighter for you!

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@rav3n it is very hard to unmask and it’ll take a while. Part of it may involve accepting my neurodivergence. I fear stigma of being neurodivergent and having mental illnesses. I am very insecure and feel socially inept and unworthy.

Today was exhausting, it’s always very exhausting. I think one of my undoing is, I am not very good at reaching out for support when I need it

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Howdy @creative_writer darlin, how's your weekend been? 

 

Just wanted to pop in to say g'day, and also been reading along - thought it might be nice for you to know that I've always thought that were we to have met IRL, we'd have become fast friends. You have something I value immensely - good chat! As in, whenever we talk, I always end up lost in the conversation, cos I'm enjoying it so much! So yeah, take that! You gosh darn delightful human you!

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Howdy @Jynx @creative_writer 

 

How are you both doing. It can be daunting to try and fit in when you know you are different. Embrace your differences because they make you unique and beautiful 

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@creative_writer stigma is such a sucky thing!! totally understand it'll take a while, there's definitely no rush in wanting to unmask. i think my first step to unmasking started online actually - even online i used to struggle to be myself but then i slowly did on places like reddit. i was surprised by how many people i related to and how many people related to me the more i unmasked there.
do you feel like your masking on this forum as well?

 

i'm sorry that today was exhausting for you. reaching out for support is not always easy, especially if you're feeling unworthy today. regardless of what you're feeling, you are always deserving and worthy of support. you matter to us always. just wanted to check if right now is one of those instances where you'd like to reach out for further support? are you feeling safe?

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Very big agree @Oaktree! Embracing my inner weirdo has made my soul much happier 😊 

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@Jynx @creative_writer 

 

Jynx I love that expression!

Embrace your inner weirdo…

I embrace my inner crazy and am good with it. It makes life kinda spontaneous and unpredictable and that is not always a bad thing 

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@Jynx I’ve had an easy weekend since I was very exhausted. I’m on my last week of placement, so feeling the burn out. I think we would’ve become fast friends if we were to meet. While we have our differences, we do have a lot in common. Maybe it’s neurodivergent vibes 💖

@Oaktree life is easier when you embrace your inner weirdo, but sometimes it does take time getting there.

@rav3n I feel like it’s easier to be myself on the forums. I also feel like sometimes my words get muddled in my head, it’s easier to form sentences through text than through speech. I have a wired brain, always have. I’m actually too exhausted to reach out to a helpline tonight, placement does that. I do have only 4 days to go, so not much longer. I’m hoping the guided service helps, I recently referred myself since I’ll have more time once placement ends

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