@creative_writer aye for sure, figuring out which social rules to follow can be tricky, especially when some are so ingrained in our social habits. I sorta try to figure out which ones are worth following (e.g. saying please n thank you) and which ones I can safely ignore (like sitting with your legs apart is... idk, provocative or something? And I found a 'list of etiquette rules' online that had, 'Never ask anyone what their job is'... like what? The rules don't make sense lol). In my opinion, as long as it isn't causing harm or distress for someone else, why not do it?
It's super hard not to interrupt people hey! I struggle with that a LOT. I think it's cos when I suddenly think of a thing I wanna say, if I don't say it straight away I'll either forget, or I'll be focusing so hard on not forgetting that I can't actually concentrate on what the other person is saying. Something that does tend to help me (within relationships that I actually care about and feel safe within anyway) is to first off flag with the person that I have ADHD, and let em know it can mess with my impulsivity. The other is, if I do feel like I need to interrupt (or I'll explode), I will acknowledge it, like: "Oh yo, sorry to interrupt, but that reminds me of x! Can we please put a pin to return to talk about x? Thanks bunches! Now, please continue with what you were saying."
Not only does it mean that I don't necessarily have to sit there trying to remember the thing I wanted to talk about, but it also lets the other person know that even though I have an ND brain that sometimes insists on interrupting, it doesn't mean I don't care about what they're saying. I've found the more I vocalise the differences (especially the ones that could be seen by others as rude), the more people are understanding and more than happy to accommodate. And if they're not... well bugger em off then 🤣
I'm off for the night! Catch ya tomorrow if you're about 💜
